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5 Feminist Bridezilla Trends We Like
What happens when a feminist gets married? Does she suddenly forget all her beliefs, wear ribbons in her hair, and wait eagerly at the door for the arrival of her husband like a Maltese? The logical conclusion would be that she's ...still a feminist.
Jessica Valenti, founder of Feministing.com is the first recognized "feminist bridezilla." She's keeping her last name, wearing a not-quite-white dress, and educating her wedding guests about same-sex marriage rights. Her bridezilla tenancies?
Although we are darn sure she's a feminist, we don't know why people are calling her a bridezilla (hey, that's our name!). There are no reports of her screaming at a caterer or firing bridesmaids. If anything, Valenti fits the bridezilla definition for going forward with her Big Dream Wedding despite her readers' uproar.
We salute Jessica Valenti! Sure, bridezilla might not be your average feminist. When we give the finger to the patriarchy, it has a five-carat diamond on it. And we're drawn to glittery bags, giant sunglasses, and beautiful weddings. But feminism is all about choice and it will be a cold day in hell before bridezilla lets someone speak for her.
If you want to celebrate your nuptials in a big way, but not lose your feminist street cred, take a look at these five feminist wedding trends.
1. What's in a name? For feminists, everything. Fellow bridezillas, remember name change is your choice. Don't let anyone (not even the groom-to-be) make this important decision for you.The hyphen is alive and well and we've heard more bride and grooms keep their individual last names or make up new ones (so cool). If you keep your name, be prepared to explain to your accountant, cable installer, insurance agent, and your grade-school friends that yes, you're married and no, you didn't take his name. Keep in mind that a few raised eyebrows are better than a full-blown identity crisis or taking a name like "Weinerham."
2. Wedding pictures before the wedding. Oh so long ago, (like in the year 2000) brides thought it was bad luck for the groom to see them right before the wedding. Not so anymore.
More brides are scheduling posed pictures with their bridal party before the ceremony. Having your posed pictures before the shindig starts saves you from standing and smiling after the ceremony, when all you want to do is celebrate. Bridezilla hint: You'll still have the "groom sees bride" moment, plus your photographer will get better angles and you're at your freshest in the beginning of the day.
3. It's a nice day for a not-so-white wedding. Bridezilla still thinks white is the prettiest color on a bride. Not because it symbolizes purity, because white pairs just so with sun-kissed skin and it makes color coordination a breeze. But if your favorite color happens to be lipstick red, just tell Grandma to avert her eyes. For an understated, yet still feminist touch, consider ivory - it's a wonderful hue and not reserved for second weddings anymore!
4. Mangagement rings. This is a relatively new and exciting wedding trend. Upon their engagement, some feminists give their guys mangagement rings to symbolize commitment. We wonder if guys go through the "make your single friends jealous with the ring" stage. Somehow we doubt it.
5. No giveaway. Many feminists believe that the father "giving away" his daughter to the groom feels a little too much like property exchange. It's a beautiful moment in the traditional ceremony, but the new trend is for brides and grooms to walk down the aisle together! Some brides walk down the aisle with both of their parents and some brides walk alone.
Whether you choose to have the bouquet toss because you think it's fun or toss the tradition because you're not comfortable making your single ladies fight for flowers, it's your wedding. Embrace the bridezilla spirit and have your perfect wedding, whatever that means to you. Comment below if you're having a Big Fat Feminist Wedding!
Bridezilla and MIL: Match Made in Heaven or Hell?
Finding Mr. Right thankfully didn't involve an epic search for me. Meeting him was like walking into a shoe store and immediately finding the perfect glittery sandal, then finding out it was on sale. We share a love of Conan O'Brien, boston terriers, and fancy restaurants. Match made in heaven! And then I met his mother...
Sound like you? It's every bridezilla! There's something about wedding planning that brings out the monster in our mother-in-laws. She's the sweetest lady, baking you cookies, inviting you on family vacations, and then dear son puts a ring on your finger. Suddenly, she transforms into the MIL from hell almost overnight.
Are the two of you destined to be peas in a pod or fire and ice? In honor of Mother's Day, check out the Brides.com's Mother in Law Matcher Tool.
Bridezilla (Capricorn) and MILzilla (Virgo).
Where we click:
"She'll appreciate the fact that her son married someone so similar to her." Uh oh. Did I marry a momma's boy?"Your down-to-earth values resonate with her at a core level." Down to earth values? *Snort* I'm a bridezilla. She can keep her down-to-earth values.
Where we clash:
"There are too many cooks in the kitchen. Capricorn and Virgo like to be in charge and insist on having things done just so." So true. When it comes to my wedding, I want things done my way. Why can't mother-in-laws understand this?"Capricorn springs for sophisticated styles from high-end design houses. You won't appreciate her trying to put a doily over your "Design Within Reach" coffee table. She'll think your spending habits are snobbish and exorbitant." So accurate, it's almost scary. If my mother-in-law dared to doily my coffeetable, she would never be invited back. Good thing she knows this.
What did the match tool reveal for you? Let us know if you and your MIL are a match made in heaven or hell!
Bridezilla's Love List No. 1: Bridal Party Tube Socks
Wedding Season is upon us! June brides can get a jump start on their last-minute wedding shopping with bridezilla's love list. All season long, we'll feature wedding items we absolutely adore (think Oprah's favorite things, only better).
There's a new trend taking the wedding world by storm. Hint - they're better than gerber daisies and more fun than a photo booth.
Bridesmaids are showing their bridesmaid pride from head to toe and this year, they're forgoing the rhinestoned sweats for....cool socks! Bridezilla looked long and hard and finally found a pair we love at WeddingStand.com.
Just imagine all the great "getting ready" shots you'll get when your girls are sporting these bridesmaid tube socks.
Sure, bridezilla would rather be caught dead than wear sneakers under her wedding gown but there's something irresistible about these tube socks. Maybe it's their sexy retro Roller Girl style. Comment below and tell us what wedding accessory you can't live without!
First-Ever Marriage Hunting Bra Unveiled
Bridezilla has seen our share of bad wedding ideas: denim wedding dresses, Star Wars reception themes, mini-skirt wedding gowns... the list goes on. But this has to be the worst wedding invention we've ever seen!
Introducing, the Marriage-Hunting bra, recently unveiled in Tokyo. The wearer sets her marriage-deadline date and the clock counts it down. It also has a pen and seal holster for signing marriage contracts.
It's just what every single woman needs -- an oh-so flattering, boxy front from wearing a digital clock in their bra, coupled with the constant reminder that they're still single. Do they reset the clock every time they break up with a beau? And aren't bras supposed to uplift, not bring a girl down?
Japanese characters on the bra read, "now hunting for a husband." With that sexy statement of desperation (snort), this beautiful model might as well be wearing a chastity belt. And get this: when an engagement ring is inserted between the cups, the melody "The Wedding March," is played to celebrate the engagement. Experts predict proposals will take a weird new turn in 2010.
Monday Bridezilla Bites: Hot Summer Sales and Wedding Exhibits
Lazy bridesmaids got you down? Upset that because of the current economy, you can't afford the wedding of your bridezilla dreams? The exhibit Wedding Tales - a collection of artifacts of Jewish Weddings in 1930's will make you see that bridezilla doesn't have it all that bad. Israeli artist and writer Leora Wise put together this collection of memories Holocaust survivors have of their weddings. Wedding Tales is being hosted by the Holocaust Memorial Resource and Education Center of Central Florida in Maitland.
Tired of Target towels? Want to create one single registry with multiple stores without looking like a total bridezilla? Try Wishpot - the newest way to register. Like a bridezilla genie, it allows you to add all the things you love from any store to your list and share it with your friends. Now only if you could get your wedding guests to buy them!
And finally, let your groom-to-be in on this bite. GroomStand.com is having a huge 10% off sale until May 31.
How to Fire a Bridesmaid, Bridezilla Style
You don't want her in your wedding party anymore. Maybe she was laid off and you want to spare her the cost of those Vera Wang bridesmaid gowns. Maybe she refused to cover her giant skull-and-snake tattoo or dye her hair from bubble-gum pink back to brown before the Big Day. Maybe she'll be eight-months pregnant, and you don't want her waddling down the aisle, stealing attention from you with her baby bump and pregnancy glisten.
Years ago, I was demoted from Maid of Honor to mere first-to-walk bridesmaid and without just cause. The bride asked me in the early planning stages to be her Maid of Honor. Months later, after she got a new best friend, she asked "Do you still want to be a um... bridesmaid?" Ouch. I performed my bridesmaid duties, but with the bitter taste in my mouth, I could barely enjoy the wedding cake much less muster a smile.
There is a proper way to break up with your bridesmaid. And it doesn't involve back-talking, text messages, or a tear-filled scene straight out of Mean Girls. Read on and learn how to let a girl go, bridezilla style.
Continue Reading How to Fire a Bridesmaid, Bridezilla Style »Friday Photo Fun: Pretty Parasols and Breathtaking Umbrellas
Toss the bouquet and pick up bridezilla's favorite accessory: the wedding umbrella! These gorgeous wedding pictures might change your opinion about rain on your wedding day.
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Bridezilla Love List: Couture Invitations by ExclusivelyWeddings.com
ExclusivelyWeddings.com has been serving discerning brides since 1992. Is there a better place for bridezilla to shop for wedding invitations?
Most DIY wedding invitations have out-of-date prints or cheap ribbons that fall off at the slightest touch. Fellow bridezillas, don't do it yourself if your crafting projects look kindergarten.
ExclusivelyWedding's Couture Invitation Collection features the damask print that's oh-so-chic this season, along with several elegant alternatives. And they're affordable, so you don't have to spend hundreds on wedding invitations that eventually end up in the garbage.
ExclusivelyWeddings is offering free shipping on all orders of $75 or more, so discerning bridezillas should check out their invitations and other wedding items before this summer sale sails away.
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