Posted by jade on 03 Jun, 2008
Her wild-eyed bouquet bashing of Mr. Big. Her coy, downcast eyes as she manipulatively wheedles an unplanned marriage proposal. Her steady blind eye to all the groom’s concerns as she marches resolutely toward the ceremony in a big, flashy, couture dress. Having just viewed the Sex and the City movie, we couldn’t help but wonder: is Carrie Bradshaw the biggest Bridezilla of all?
Like most women, Carrie starts out innocently enough. After a no-frills proposal (we think she read our guide to Inducing I Do) she blithely eschews a diamond ring in favor of a bigger closet and determines to wear a “sweet” little suit from Goodwill for her ceremony. But when all is said and done, Carrie, like so many brides who get caught up in the wedding whirlwind, is standing in a decadent couture gown, surrounded by doting bridesmaids, throwing a fit over cell phones as she is about to be jilted by the man who’s wedding concerns she’s summarily steamrolled.
When you think about it, Carrie is a Bridezilla pretty much from page one. She coyly coerces a proposal that was clearly not what Mr. Big had in mind. She embarrasses him with a flashy, 200-guest ceremony when all he wanted was something simple. And when he calls her the night before to talk out his wedding misgivings, Carrie gives him a cruise-director pep-talk, not the consoling empathetic ear of a soulmate.
But…she’s not bad. Not really. All the things Carrie does are things pretty much any bride has done (minus the Manolos and the Vogue Spread, natch). As always, Miss Bradshaw has a knack for breaking down stereotypes about women, and this movie arguably topples the most au courant of all. What the Sex and the City the series did for mistresses, the Sex and the City the movie does for Bridezillas. It humanizes them, honing in on the inexorable factors to show that, no matter how outlandish, any other behavior seem impossible under the circumstances. It brilliantly draws out the ugliest consequences (Natasha’s accident, Carrie’s altar-jilting) and the most dreamily impossible results (Carrie and Big ending up together, Carrie and Big ending up together.) As Carrie so forlornly puts it over her Valentine’s Day dinner with Miranda, “I let the wedding get bigger than Big.” If that’s not the universal apologetic of Bridezillas everywhere, we don’t know what is.
Hopefully, with the help of women’s most humane heroine, Sex and the City will contribute to a more sympathetic portrayal of Bridezillas, and put an end to the flame-breathing harpies of We TV once and for all.